Whatever it takes?

Today was an okay day. I took care of some chores in the morning, didn’t bother with other chores in the afternoon, and I lay down and took a nap to catch myself up on this past week. I’m really glad that week is over. It was killer. Monday I’ve got another big day. Actually all next week is going to be pretty heavy, as I’m pulling triple-duty for two colleagues who are traveling out of town. Should be interesting.

Minute by minute, hour by hour… that’s how things get done.

I recently came across an interesting set of videos featuring Giavanni Ruffin and Eric Thomas, two gentlemen whose mission is to inspire others and motivate them to greatness, excellence and amazing accomplishments.

Here are the videos I’ve been watching — and watching some more.

The cornerstone of their message, from what I can tell, is hard work. Lots of it. And they believe in Taking No Days Off. In other words, keep going, never stop, never give yourself a moment to rest, because you may miss the opportunity you’ve been looking for. Always keep moving, always keep growing, always keep getting stronger and faster than the day before. Never backtrack, never let up. Just keep moving, to crush the competition. Do whatever it takes. But do it.

Now, I don’t know about you, but that’s how I lived for years. It was pretty much how I rolled, no matter when, no matter what. And that Type A drive that Never Surrendered, Never Gave Up, but kept pushing and pushing and pushing past barriers and hurdles and obstacles… well, eventually it just wore me down and wiped me out and I ended up hurt. Repeatedly.

I’ve never been one to sit on the sidelines for long, and I’ve always pushed myself — often harder than was wise or necessary. But I had to do it. I just had to. Something in me just drove me on. And I could totally relate to the message. At the same time, however, I paid a price — in terms of TBI and other injuries that have dogged me through the years. I know the hazards of over-training and not giving yourself enough chance to rest and recover. Sometimes, you do have to take a day off — although it’s not really taking a day “off” because the body is still working to recover and you’re still making gains, even though you feel like you’re idle.

That’s probably been the biggest thing I’ve struggled with over the recent years — learning to back off and take it easy on myself, not drive myself into the ground, and not completely wreck myself with fatigue and overwork. I can totally relate to what Messrs Ruffin and Thomas are saying above. At the same time, however, using good judgment and prudence in terms of balance and recovery… well, that just makes sense.

Speaking of which, it’s late. Time for bed.

Till later.

 

Author: brokenbrilliant

I am a long-term multiple (mild) Traumatic Brain Injury (mTBI or TBI) survivor who experienced assaults, falls, car accidents, sports-related injuries in the 1960s, '70s, '80s, and '90s. My last mild TBI was in 2004, but it was definitely the worst of the lot. I never received medical treatment for my injuries, some of which were sports injuries (and you have to get back in the game!), but I have been living very successfully with cognitive/behavioral (social, emotional, functional) symptoms and complications since I was a young kid. I’ve done it so well, in fact, that virtually nobody knows that I sustained those injuries… and the folks who do know, haven’t fully realized just how it’s impacted my life. It has impacted my life, however. In serious and debilitating ways. I’m coming out from behind the shields I’ve put up, in hopes of successfully addressing my own (invisible) challenges and helping others to see that sustaining a TBI is not the end of the world, and they can, in fact, live happy, fulfilled, productive lives in spite of it all.

3 thoughts on “Whatever it takes?”

  1. BB –

    Interestingly I think that this is a very western notion that is particularly prevalent in people with BI. And I think it is wrong.
    You are not lazy, you are not lacking in character, you are willing to work hard, you are committed. That is not the issue.
    Your brain was injured – it can be rebuilt, perhaps in differing ways, but in no way do your struggles reflect ANY lack of effort on your part.
    In brain healing one of the most important things to do is to identify rational and supportive boundaries. That doesn’t mean you don’t push hard but it also means you have time to restore, refresh. Evan a muscle needs time to recover.
    You need to sleep, you need kindness and grace for yourself. You need to feel peace with what you do and to keep trying. But to keep trying doesn’t mean to challenge yourself to a duel everyday, it means being open and quiet and at rest as much as it means to strive. In a brain injury over-striving is as bad as nothing at all.

    You are great, you don’t have to ‘want it so bad you will do any crazy thing to prove it’ – you need the opposite, you need to know that you have always shown that you want it bad – that’s never in doubt.

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  2. Thanks m –

    I really have altered my outlook over the past several years, to the point where after the initial rush of watching the videos, I was really feeling a strong sense of foreboding and “Warning, warning Will Robinson! Danger!”. This mentality that you should never rest, that you should never stop, that you should keep going and keep striving and give more when you feel you can’t give anymore… that’s what’s gotten me into trouble, time and again. Eventually, slowly, I am learning.

    The video really hit me — especially in the light of it contrasting with how I feel now — and also calling out that old mindset that is so hard to break. I tend to forget that things are not as they once were.

    And that can be a dangerous place to be.

    Thanks for your words.

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