So, one of my old high school buddies messaged me on Facebook a few weeks back and apologized for treating me so badly during high school. They were genuinely sorry. For what, I’m not sure.
Seriously, I could not remember anything that this person had ever done to me, let alone something that required an abject apology. I guess what was in their heart and mind at that time was something they now realize was not right.
But here, all these years, I’ve been thinking we were good friends and parted ways on good terms.
So, there’s one benefit of having a bad memory. I also tend to forget instances of bad experiences in my past — though I can often recall them later, if I think about them. They’re just not front and center in my mind.
Which, I suppose, is good. I don’t need to have all my “cycles” used up by negativity and regret and anger and resentment. Life has enough challenges, as it is, without adding my own baggage to it.
So, there it is.
Not every memory is worth keeping. And not every recollection is worth dwelling on. Sometimes the best thing for me to do is give people the benefit of the doubt — even when they don’t really deserve it — and free up my mind for more positive things.
YOLO, after all. Pick your fascination.
I so agree that not every memory is worth keeping. I have heard that people who have very vivid recall of day to day events may have a hard time dealing with the past. Altholugh some of those people are autistic, there are people who are not in the autism spectrum that have such a recall. They say it is a blessing to forget.
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It’s a good thing you didn’t have ECT treatments, they may have cost you some of your long-term memory. Good post.
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Thanks – good thing is right!
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