Knowing why is half the battle

Take a closer look and get clear on why

It’s been said that people take a job for the company and leave because of management. They join up because of the company reputation and all that being part of that team promises… and then they decide to leave because their boss is a nightmare.

With me, it is kind of the opposite.

Oh, to be sure, I have had my differences with management. But the real reason for my leaving is because of the company itself. The way things are done, the way decisions are made, the way people are hired and fired and promoted and demoted and paid and given (or denied) bonuses… it’s just ridiculous, looking at it from an American standpoint.

The company is based overseas, and the way they do things is fine by their standards. It works for them, within their own cultural framework. But it’s not up to my standards, and I’m not about to change what works for me and my undertakings — and has worked for 25+ years — because the overlords are in love with themselves and want to prove how fabulous they are.

Heaven help us.

Actually, heaven help the people I’m leaving behind.

Because I am out of there soon enough.

And I know why.

It’s not personal, it’s professional.

It’s not because everything is horrific, but because there is something much better for me.

It’s not because I think it will solve other people’s problems (that will never happen)… it’s because this will solve some of my problems and make it easier for me to deal effectively with other people’s problems.

I’m working through all my reasons for moving on, this weekend, so that when I sit down to talk to folks tomorrow, I will be clear and confident. I am doing my training this weekend, then I am going to trust my training tomorrow and just let things flow.

My focus is this: To not get all worked up. To not get all emotional. To not allow them to stonewall or bully me or get me upset, which is something they are pretty good at doing. I have some strategies in my back pocket to use — like making sure that HR is involved in every discussion I have with the uber-boss, who is a bully and has a bad habit of saying one thing to one person and something quite different to someone else, and doing it in a very threatening way.

Come to think of it, I’m going to make sure HR is involved in discussions I have with my immediate manager, as well, because they have a bad habit of saying one thing to one person, and then saying something completely different to someone else. And they love to say things that upset other people, because it gives them a psychological edge.

I’m not going to have any private conversations with anyone who’s proven themselves untrustworthy. That’s a given.

Obviously, I need to give notice in person to my immediate manager, but after that, HR is going to be involved. No behind the scenes operating. No testing my limits. None of that. I’m going to spare us all the conflict and drama around mixed messages and maneuvers, and keep it clean and clear.

As much as possible.

So, for today, clarity is the top priority. Clarity and calm. I’ll be writing things down and thinking about things throughout the day today, always with a mind towards keeping things clear and clean. And making this transition out of my old job to new one as smooth as humanly possible.

I’ve learned a ton of things over the years, all of which I can put to good use tomorrow and for the next two weeks.

Knowing that — and knowing why I’m leaving — and being able to communicate that clearly and calmly … that’s half the battle, right there.

Author: brokenbrilliant

I am a long-term multiple (mild) Traumatic Brain Injury (mTBI or TBI) survivor who experienced assaults, falls, car accidents, sports-related injuries in the 1960s, '70s, '80s, and '90s. My last mild TBI was in 2004, but it was definitely the worst of the lot. I never received medical treatment for my injuries, some of which were sports injuries (and you have to get back in the game!), but I have been living very successfully with cognitive/behavioral (social, emotional, functional) symptoms and complications since I was a young kid. I’ve done it so well, in fact, that virtually nobody knows that I sustained those injuries… and the folks who do know, haven’t fully realized just how it’s impacted my life. It has impacted my life, however. In serious and debilitating ways. I’m coming out from behind the shields I’ve put up, in hopes of successfully addressing my own (invisible) challenges and helping others to see that sustaining a TBI is not the end of the world, and they can, in fact, live happy, fulfilled, productive lives in spite of it all.

2 thoughts on “Knowing why is half the battle”

  1. From the beginning of my career in 1976 until retirement in 2011 it has been awful to watch the decline of the “company” and rising of the “corporation”.

    The Company cared about its employees, treated them with respect. We were a “family”, everyone came to the company picnic, we had a half day holiday for Christmas Eve. The company gave each employee a $25 check at Christmas. Yes, these are little bitty things, but showed that we were a company, common goals, everyone working for success. There were good benefits. Medical, dental, vision at very little or no cost to the employee. Promotions were a 10% pay increase, we got “cost of living increases”. A merit raise for performance was 3-5%. Retirement was a “defined benefit” program, about 35%, you kept your medical, dental and vision benefits into retirement.

    Over the next 35 years. Promotions are 1 – 3%, there are no cost of living increases. A superior performance review may not even get you a 1% increase. There is no longer over time pay for non-union personnel. But you are expected to work whatever it takes to get the job done.

    Retirement is now a defined contribution plan, about 25%. Retirement medical is gone. You can stay in the corporation medical plan, but have to pay the full cost. For 2014 its $2309/month, plus a high deductible. Dental, sure a $1500 plan for $183 a month – do I look that dumb? Vision- gone.

    Top notch engineers now graduate from college, come to work, stay three years to get some skills, and the leave to work for someone paying 30% more and overtime. These young people expect nothing from the corporation but a paycheck. When its no fun to work for the corporation, they find another opportunity and leave. Thus the corporation is no longer building “Tribal Knowledge”. I fear “Corporate Executive Management” doesn’t think its necessary.

    But I worked for an Electric Utility!! Tribal Knowledge is critical to keeping the grid up. Employees being willing to answer the phone after hours and on weekends is critical, but since no one seems to care, well, I for one am concerned that we may lose the grid and its down for too long, because all those who know how, have left.

    Just spewing a bit…a subject that really gets to me!!


  2. I hear you loud and clear. And I agree on every account. That Tribal Knowledge is the lifeblood of a Company. Now, the corporate structure is set up to shred all connections between people, because it is constantly forcing people to make decisions for political reasons, rather than humane ones. And if you are truly dedicated to doing a decent job for the sake of pride and quality of work, you’re viewed as a chump and taken advantage of, by those who are too busy climbing.

    Nowadays, it’s all about “me” — very little to do with “we”.

    And that’s a real loss which has much higher pricetag than individual well-being alone. As far as I’m concerned, that me-first, screw-you predatory mindset — not any high level economic policy or political change — has gutted the spirit of this country. We really have been colonized all over again — this time from the ranks of the globalization mavens in our midst, whose cynicism is putting our work (and work ethic) on the auction block, to go to the highest bidder.


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