Head injury – the gift that keeps on giving

I’m on my way home from visiting my family for the funeral. All in all, it was a good visit, and I learned a few things I had not known before.

The main thing I learned is that my nephew, who has had multiple concussions thanks to falls and collisions in his sports of choice – BMX (bicycle moto-cross), skateboarding and action sports, is having huge problems in his life after graduating from high school last spring. He’s not living independently, and he’s having terrible headaches and sleeping through alarms.

I’ve suspected this might happen to him, and now it’s a reality.

I had a chance to talk to his mom, and she is understandably worried.

I promised to send her some information, and so I shall, when I get home and have access to all my “goodies” on my hard drive. I talked with her a bit, sharing some of my own insights, without saying much about my own experience… I wish I could have said more, but there wasn’t a lot of time and I didn’t know how much to say.

One of the big issues that comes front and center with this situation, is the issue of sense of self. No surprises there. My nephew is very invested in being a BMX racer / stunt rider as well as a skateboarder. So any change to that status is going to mess with his head in a bad way – especially because he’s just now going out in the world.

He is a really great kid, and I have been concerned about him for some time.

Now perhaps I can help.

Gotta try.


Author: brokenbrilliant

I am a long-term multiple (mild) Traumatic Brain Injury (mTBI or TBI) survivor who experienced assaults, falls, car accidents, sports-related injuries in the 1960s, '70s, '80s, and '90s. My last mild TBI was in 2004, but it was definitely the worst of the lot. I never received medical treatment for my injuries, some of which were sports injuries (and you have to get back in the game!), but I have been living very successfully with cognitive/behavioral (social, emotional, functional) symptoms and complications since I was a young kid. I’ve done it so well, in fact, that virtually nobody knows that I sustained those injuries… and the folks who do know, haven’t fully realized just how it’s impacted my life. It has impacted my life, however. In serious and debilitating ways. I’m coming out from behind the shields I’ve put up, in hopes of successfully addressing my own (invisible) challenges and helping others to see that sustaining a TBI is not the end of the world, and they can, in fact, live happy, fulfilled, productive lives in spite of it all.

3 thoughts on “Head injury – the gift that keeps on giving”

  1. Glad you can provide information and I hope it will make a difference and he will have continued healing and motivation to keep working towards that progress and his goals (even if some must be redefined).


  2. Go full steam a-head and “…MESS!” These sports you mention are pre-requisite study for the neurosurgical work-up team, their essential injururious areas and major invasive types of interventions, especially when done in light of a youth that is fond of competition sans-helmetry.

    I usually invoke my wisdom and experiential background with brain-injury and the consequences of brain surgery, while I am still able, when speaking with others, to protect and correct the brains and salvage human lives from such injuries, for any and all much loved family mbrs or friends that engage in these high-risk sports. Neither invited nor asked, I jump in (wise woman that I am) uninvited, many times people are unaware of the dangers that lurk behind these seemingly healthy, yet risky and insane activities.

    I too, was very healthy, at a time when I needed to have my brain resected twelve years ago. I still am bodily fit altho live without a full brain, yet recognise the essential rules of being in excellent physical health require a strong and fit mind!

    The neural-pathways of disability, rehabilitation, medicines and prognoses should never be taken lightly, nor should they be taken as a temporary situation, these myriad treatments measure over the long term, often evince in death and much shorter life spans. Before then, altered long-term life goals of a cerebral and bodily outcome are the norm when brain is taken, and life is retained. Goals may need to be re-focused and re-calibrated now, a hopeful if not enthusiastic situation in youth, less acceptable and easy to do, at later stages of life as was the case with mine. We finally had an acceptable surgical outcome for the loss of much brain tissue, without death as the acceptable other outcome. Your family mbr may still have a chance to avoid this, if you get all up in his mess, to avoid it. Don’t hesitate!

    If the current status can be treated with relatively non-invasive procedures, I hope he is open to the information, and opts for less risky but just as stressful and balanced physical endeavors.


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