Try, try again


So, the course I have been taking, has had some surprises for me.

First, there are quizzes. I had been watching the lectures and I’ve found them pretty straightforward. And there were some reminders about things I needed to do. But when I took another look over the weekend, lo and behold, there are quizzes I need to do, and I missed the first two of them.

The first one I can’t retake, because it’s too long ago. The second one I took, and got a 100% on it (on my 2nd try), but I’m not sure I’ll get full credit because I was late. The third quiz I took, I got 40% — which is actually good, because it is forcing me to rethink my answers and more fully understand the materials and the reason for the answers being correct.

I’m kind of upset with myself for spacing out — not knowing how things go. But that’s how things often are with me, and it’s how I learn best. I mess things up, the first time through, then I go back and take a second look and make sense of it all.

And I do much better in the end.

Ultimately, I believe that the measure of your intelligence is NOT how you do on one-time tests, but rather how adaptable you are… how well you learn and incorporate new information and adjust to changing situations. That, for me, is what intelligence is all about. And the folks with the Feuerstein Method agree with me.

I’m really happy I found them. Not because they are telling me anything I didn’t already believe in my heart, but because they provide confirmation and additional context for this way of understanding what it means to be intelligent. It’s not how you do on one single test, that you take one single time. It’s how you learn from it and apply the knowledge you gain from the whole experience.

So, I’m going back into the course and taking a second look… giving more thought to things and realizing where I went wrong. That’s half the battle – figuring out what to screen out, and what to take in.

And it often takes me a second try, before things start to make sense. So, I’ll just do that, and learn – learn – learn.


Author: brokenbrilliant

I am a long-term multiple (mild) Traumatic Brain Injury (mTBI or TBI) survivor who experienced assaults, falls, car accidents, sports-related injuries in the 1960s, '70s, '80s, and '90s. My last mild TBI was in 2004, but it was definitely the worst of the lot. I never received medical treatment for my injuries, some of which were sports injuries (and you have to get back in the game!), but I have been living very successfully with cognitive/behavioral (social, emotional, functional) symptoms and complications since I was a young kid. I’ve done it so well, in fact, that virtually nobody knows that I sustained those injuries… and the folks who do know, haven’t fully realized just how it’s impacted my life. It has impacted my life, however. In serious and debilitating ways. I’m coming out from behind the shields I’ve put up, in hopes of successfully addressing my own (invisible) challenges and helping others to see that sustaining a TBI is not the end of the world, and they can, in fact, live happy, fulfilled, productive lives in spite of it all.

9 thoughts on “Try, try again”

  1. According to your definition, I am as dumb as they come. And that is how I feel, in some way it is unpleasant to see yourself low in intelligence, but it sure beats being told you have a high IQ when you know you’re dumb. No it’s not so black and white.
    But you get point. Try again! have a good day! Luka

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  2. Agreed. We all have unique gifts and traumatic brain injures takes a lot but in many cases it leaves us more objective perhaps because our sense of “i” is gone. So an ego interrupts less certain kinds of thinking. But in the real world, your definition of intelligence is correct from my point of view.
    I have missed so much in the last 27 years and it’s hurt my life and those around me unknowingly

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  3. Yes it does. Esp. when nobody will tell you exactly what you said that pissed off another.
    How do you begin to make amends? Now you’re trying to use a damaged brain to connect dots. So you just accept it and try to put good into the world somehow. But that also is heart wrenching cause nobody wants to help you back. You are looked as weird or crazy.

    You’re just never really in synch with the world again.
    27 years of trying. Trying to understand. “who’s on first…”

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  4. The only good thing about my brain injuries was that for large blocks of time, I had no clue that people were holding grudges against me. I didn’t “get it”. I c y last girlfriend said “autistic”.

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