You’re not alone.
The holidays can be tough for anyone who’s got extra difficulties, due to chronic illness. And with TBI / concussion, sometimes the worst thing is being around people who don’t understand what it’s like to have your life turned upside-down by a “mild” blow to the head.
As I’ve said many times, there’s nothing “mild” about a concussion or a traumatic brain injury. That momentary alteration of consciousness means that something “in there” got injured. And no amount of positive thinking or motivation or … consequences… is going to change the functional ability, unless you have adequate time to recover and rebuild your wiring.
You have to keep the stress down, to do that effectively. It takes time and practice and sometimes a bit of luck, to rebuild what you once had. And being pushed and prodded by people who don’t understand TBI or “get” why concussion can turn your life upside-down, doesn’t help with that.
The holidays can be stressful, to begin with. Then you add all the people, the expectations, the increased pace (a lot of us are racing to finish year-end goals at work, at the same time we’re shopping and figuring out holiday party logistics), and money pressures… and it just gets worse. Cognitive reserves that were already in short supply, get even less… and meanwhile, everybody expects you to KEEP UP! KEEP UP! WHAT’S THE HOLD-UP?!
Some of my own challenges have been:
- Remembering what I’m supposed to do at work. I’ve forgotten a bunch of stuff I was supposed to do – and I even forget to write it down.
- Dealing with depression. It comes and goes with me. This year, it seems to be coming more than it’s going.
- Keeping cool with my spouse, when tensions get high.
- Staying on my exercise routine.
- Eating sensibly, and not “stuffing my face” with all kinds of candies and cookies. I’ve done well in terms of candy, because I can’t have chocolate (sets off migraines with me), but I’ve eaten more bread and cookies than I should.
- Getting enough rest, and keeping on my regular sleep schedule. A tired brain is an irritable brain, and boy, do I get irritable when I get tired. I’ve had a hard time keeping on my sleep schedule, these past weeks, and I really have to concentrate on getting that sorted out when I’m off work next week.
- Not pushing myself too hard. It’s easy for me to push. I know how to do that. But while it used to work okay when I was in my 30s, now that I’m past 50, it’s just not the same. I need to remember where I am… and act accordingly.
Basically, keeping myself together during the holidays is like an extra part-time job. It helps that I haven’t spent a lot of time socializing with friends and family. That takes the pressure off. But for many, many other people, they don’t have that option. And my heart goes out to them.
Still and all, it will be over soon enough. Just a few more days till Christmas, then another week till New Years (which isn’t much of a holiday for me, anyway). Then I can get back to my regular life.
And start the year fresh.
5 thoughts on “Concussion symptoms got you down, this holiday season?”
I have set routines in my life. Sure, sometimes it’s good to forgo the routine, but during stressful times I rely on them heavily to get me through without those awful feelings of being overwhelmed, rushed, stuck between a hard place and a rock.
I really recommend shifting at least part of the present-fest to 12th Nite (Epiphany, January 6th). After all, it was good enough for those Three Wise Men! It really makes the entire holiday season much more enjoyable to have those extra 12 days – and BOY is it easier on the budget to shop the after Christmas sales, when the biggest crowds cluster around the returns desk!
(Madelyn Griffith-Haynie – ADDandSoMuchMore dot com)
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Routine is very helpful for me, as well. I don’t know what I’d do without it.
I agree – I have been lobbying for that shift for years – time to make it happen.
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