“is it common for a stroke victim to lie about everything?”

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This is what life after stroke may look like – you don’t realize what you don’t know… and you misrepresent it

Please Note: All brain injuries are different. They will affect people in different ways. The following are my observations from personal experience with a stroke survivor, as well as what I know about brain injury. Not everyone is going to have this. My point is, lying is a complex behavior that may be unintentional, as well as organically based — not deliberate or manipulative. Some people may be manipulators, and they may become moreso after stroke, but some people simply don’t realize what they’re doing, and they need help and compassion, not judgment and suspicion.

Somebody found their way to this blog by searching for this question: “is it common for a stroke victim to lie about everything?”

I believe it’s not uncommon.

Stroke can confuse you about what’s really going on. And they may not even realize they are lying.

Either that, or it can make a person very anxious, to the point where they’ll lie to get out of trouble, or they’ll just say whatever comes to mind, to cover their tracks.

It can be a real problem, because it can keep a stroke survivor from telling you exactly what’s going on with them.

And if you don’t know, you can’t help them the way they need to be helped.

It sucks.

But it happens.


Author: brokenbrilliant

I am a long-term multiple (mild) Traumatic Brain Injury (mTBI or TBI) survivor who experienced assaults, falls, car accidents, sports-related injuries in the 1960s, '70s, '80s, and '90s. My last mild TBI was in 2004, but it was definitely the worst of the lot. I never received medical treatment for my injuries, some of which were sports injuries (and you have to get back in the game!), but I have been living very successfully with cognitive/behavioral (social, emotional, functional) symptoms and complications since I was a young kid. I’ve done it so well, in fact, that virtually nobody knows that I sustained those injuries… and the folks who do know, haven’t fully realized just how it’s impacted my life. It has impacted my life, however. In serious and debilitating ways. I’m coming out from behind the shields I’ve put up, in hopes of successfully addressing my own (invisible) challenges and helping others to see that sustaining a TBI is not the end of the world, and they can, in fact, live happy, fulfilled, productive lives in spite of it all.

8 thoughts on ““is it common for a stroke victim to lie about everything?””

  1. I had a conversation with someone on this topic and here’s my two cents… What if the person who had the stroke also sustained auditory deficiencies as many of us with TBI did? With hearing dysfunction you often miss key words or phrases. Following stroke, many cannot deal with their new situation and don’t reveal to others their struggles. Instead of admitting hearing and understanding difficulties their brains fill in the blanks of what they thought they heard. That then translates to them sharing their “truth” as they believe they heard it. If someone is consistently lying but believes they are not, a good hearing eval may be in order. After my TBI I have certain auditory deficiencies (yet still fall in the normal range). It might be something to check. I am dealing with a relative who had a stroke and she is in denial of some symptoms 8 months later. Food for thought! And, thanks for your blog!

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  2. I am accused of this all the time. In my reality, I don’t lie. I think my family use it as an excuse to tell me or others that I am wrong therefore they are to be believed. It is rather disempowering. Cheers,H

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  3. I think your perception of stroke survivors is off. I am a stroke survivor. I had a major stroke. If anything, I am just the opposite of what you proclaim. I have a tendency, to tell the truth when it would be better to tell a white lie to spare feelings. Maybe you need to read a little about stroke victims.

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  4. Sorry if you got that impression. I actually live with a stroke survivor, so I’m just speaking from my experience. Brain injuries are as diverse as the people who have them, so personality traits can vary, and the way the brain is affected will differ from person to person.

    The most important thing of all, is to remember that each person is different, each brain injury is different, and to not make generalizations about a large group, based on a subset. I’ll update that piece to reflect this, because while I have seen evidence of this, myself, it’s not true for everyone.


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  5. That can be disheartening. I’ve been accused of lying many, many times when I was a kid – but it was confabulation — getting confused about the actual state of things. It wasn’t deliberate lying. And I got pretty much of a complex about it, thinking I couldn’t trust myself at all.

    I wish this were easier…


  6. Just so you know, this is not an accusation, nor is it a criticism of folks who have experienced stroke. It’s just an observation that it can happen. If it doesn’t happen with you, then great. But it can happen. It’s not unheard of. It doesn’t reflect on you at all. In fact, if anything, it should enlighten people to the fact that perceived “lying” might be something very different – organically based and a result of an injury, not bad intent.


  7. I have always been accused of lying, when A) I was missing auditory clues – like you said, and B) I was just confused. I genuinely believed what I was saying was true – I just didn’t realize I was wrong. And it backfired on me.


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